Creating Stability in your life allows you to reduce and manage stress, and thus be able to cope in daily life tasks.
1. Safety and physical needs have to be addressed to bring your body to balance.
We need safety, basic physical needs to be met, a sense of belonging, loving support, opportunities to learn and develop so we can grow, mature into healthy balanced people. Some people cope with sickness, developmental problems, injuries and poor environments. In which case, how do you adapt to the physical requirements, how do you make it all work out in the best way you can with what you have? What other resources are available to create a better outcome?
2. Structure and healthy support systems help you on an external level.
Resources within an individual and within the family can be pulled together for mutual benefit. Having family working as a team, helps you to feel that someone is protecting your back. Community support used to be easy- now we move around so much, we do not necessarily even know our neighbors anymore. Many of the community supports have become commercialized.
We still have family based religious organizations and churches, community events, and friends and family to call upon in times of crisis. When you are part of community, making secondary relationships, socializing with others, you can anchor yourselves more, this is part of stability we can generate for ourselves. Volunteering, being part of something bigger than ourselves is good for us to have a healthy world view.
Getting outside, playing, making friends, developing interests and hobbies can enrich our experiences. Having a garden, an animal to connect with gives us inspiration. Watching children play, participating in sports helps us feel good about ourselves. Keeping in contact with neighbors, secondary business people like doctors, dentists, shop keepers helps us feel like we belong in the community. As we age, the routine of going to the coffee shop for the same order becomes an important part of moving, visibility and part of socializing.
3. Valuing and loving yourself helps you on the self management- the inner level.
Finding ways to express gratitude, and compassion for yourself and others is a good start. Feed yourself healthy food- not just chemicals, over processed food like substances. Alive foods actually nurture our nerves, our brains, organs, allow our bodies to function properly. Finding something in your life to share has benefits for others. Do you have some humor? A compliment? A service you can do that generates good will for others?
Spending time playing with animals is so fun, helps you to enjoy and love yourself as well. What was the best thing that happened to you today? The more you put your attention on what is going right, the easier it is to get momentum for positive change in your life. Paying attention to your self talk is so important. Be gentle with yourself.
4. Find healthy ways to participate in an adult role within community, to build relationships.
I have noticed that even taking a dog for a walk, you can generate conversations with passers by. Being outside doing gardening, there are people who will start to comment, smile and encourage you. Saying hello to the store clerk, taking an interest in their day- all helps you feel connections to others. Invite someone out for a walk, a bike ride.When you share loving kindness, it comes back to you.
5. Find personal balance within the aspects of Emotional, Mental, Physical, and Spiritual experiencing in your life.
Meditations, getting out in nature, bike riding, reading, doing my business, earning an income, picking weeds, hosting family suppers are some of the things I do for balance. Getting out and having adventures, kayaking and hiking are important to me, help me keep my balance.
During an intake, together we can assess where you are, and what your life goals are, and what your addiction recovery can look like. What does recovery or stability mean to you?